Contrary to popular assumption, the daughter’s dream wedding would have been a lavish destination wedding in New Zealand’s stunning countryside, attended by 100–200 guests!

Not only that, but it would come with an incredible $200,00 price tag. After learning of this, the father was left with a dilemma: he was torn between wanting to please his daughter and worrying that the excessive display of wealth, which he referred to as “burning money,” would upset his family.

The dad expressed his conflict in a letter, saying, “My wife feels I should do it because we can afford it, but I think it’s a pointless showing of wealth.” My wife and daughter no longer communicate with me. Which led me to question, “Should I burn money, sour relations with family, and take the risk to fulfill my daughter’s dream wedding?”

They said, “Not to mention the fact that she’s acting out and not communicating with you indicates to me that she doesn’t deserve it.” I believe that inheriting our parents’ riches is wrong. A solution was also put forth by a Redditor: the father should only contribute as much as he felt comfortable with, letting the daughter plan her wedding on a shoestring. If my dad passes away, I won’t anticipate any legacy from him.

“Give her the budget and decide how much you can afford to give her.”

be doing a lot of traveling. “She can afford a blow-out wedding if that’s what she wants,” they wrote.