He went so far as to ask her to get rid of this selfish attitude and accept what she was receiving for holiday. Since then, the husband refused to talk to his wife as he thought she was being ridiculous.

Torn and unsure what to do, the woman sought opinions on Reddit. To her surprise, people told her the same thing: her husband didn’t value her the same way he valued his friends.

“If one of my coworkers spent so much more on me than on their own spouse, I would be SERIOUSLY weirded out,” one person noted. “If my BIL got me a $250 bracelet I’d be extremely uncomfortable. Throw in the fact that he only spent $20 on spoons for his wife I’d be appalled,” another added.

Others went so far as to warn the woman that her husband’s traits were red flags that merited a divorce. “That’s a huge red flag to dote and shower others with gifts and not your significant other…but expect them to get you nice things in return. It’s beyond disrespectful,” one person said.