In a world that increasingly values and encourages self-expression, I understand that everyone has their own style. However, I couldn’t shake the feeling that this particular style seemed out of place in a sacred setting.

In my mind, church is a place that embodies modesty and respect, not necessarily a stage for bold fashion statements

 As the preacher began his sermon, I found it difficult to concentrate; my thoughts kept drifting back to that striking neon pink hair.

Why Do We Hold Certain Expectations in Sacred Spaces?

I grew up during a time when dressing conservatively for church was the norm. Muted tones, understated outfits, and a general simplicity in our appearance were seen as ways to show respect. For me, church attire has always represented an extension of the reverence we hold for the space itself—a place to quiet the mind and focus on things beyond ourselves. So, I found myself wondering: Is it wrong to feel that vibrant pink hair might not be appropriate for a place of worship?

As I mulled over this question, it struck me that many of us carry unspoken expectations about how we and others should behave or dress in particular environments. Sacred spaces like churches often bring these expectations into sharper focus, as they are set apart from our everyday lives. But with the changing times and evolving ideas about self-expression, do these old standards still hold weight?

An Unexpected Encounter and a Surprising Response

After the service ended, I noticed the woman with the pink hair standing outside the church, chatting with a group of people. I hesitated, unsure whether I should approach her. Part of me didn’t want to create any tension, but I also felt like I needed to express my perspective. Gathering my courage, I walked over and politely said, “Excuse me, I couldn’t help but notice your hair. I just wanted to share my thoughts—bright colors like that might not feel appropriate for church.”

I half-expected her to be taken aback or to offer an explanation. Instead, she responded without missing a beat: “Well, I don’t think it’s any of your business,” she replied, a small, tight smile on her face. “I come to church to pray, not to be judged on my appearance.”

Her bluntness left me stunned. My intention hadn’t been to make her feel unwelcome, nor did I want to start an argument. I simply wanted to express how I felt about respect for the church environment. But her response got me thinking—did I cross a line? Was I wrong to voice my opinion?